Ms. Tran Thi Tuyet Nhung shared: “In the past, I often lost my temper and scolded my child. However, after learning and applying the methods from the course, I realized that I could remain calmer in all situations—not only with my child but also with those around me. The great thing is that throughout the practice, I have always had the support of my instructor and fellow participants, who help answer my questions and guide me in adjusting my communication with my child more effectively.”
As they entered the fifth session of the Positive Parenting course, parents gathered to share their challenges and difficulties in practicing their “homework” assignments. This was a valuable opportunity for everyone to listen, empathize, and find the best approach for their own parenting journey. After four sessions, parents had experienced a wide range of emotions—from self-awareness to understanding their children, from learning practical tools to practicing meaningful connections. This journey not only helps parents build a closer relationship with their children but also fosters an open, respectful, and loving communication environment.
Entering the new topic of Active Listening, Teacher Le Van Hao posed a thought-provoking question: “What kind of power do we have over our children? Are we controlling them or influencing them?” From there, he guided parents toward a new perspective: Active listening is not just about hearing with our ears but also about engaging with our eyes and hearts. When parents truly listen, children feel understood and respected, which encourages them to open up and share more.
Mr. Hao also introduced four steps to active listening that help parents connect with their children more effectively:
1. Acknowledge your child’s thoughts and feelings.
2. Validate their emotions so they feel understood.
3. Encourage them to express themselves with confidence.
4. Collaborate with them to find solutions instead of imposing decisions.
Through real-life situations, parents not only learn how to respond to their children’s emotions but also help them develop self-awareness, trust their own feelings, and regulate their emotions when communicating with their parents.
Parenting has never been an easy journey, but with understanding and active listening, each day with your child becomes an opportunity to build a deeper connection. As Peter Drucker once said, “The most important thing in communication is hearing what isn’t said.”
